evening with Joelle- expanding my horizon ;-)
The closer you live, the less you see each other: that's what happens to Joelle and me. Even though she studies in Fribourg and I (still!) live in Fribourg, we hardly get to see each other. But last night we finally managed to meet!
Thanks not only for a great evening, my friend, but also for expanding my horizon! ;-)
Joelle was kind enough to introduce me to a new term I had never heard before but caught my attendtion: a friend with benefits :-)
In case you are just as lost as I was, here comes what I found in Wikipedia:
"A casual relationship (sometimes referred to as friends with benefits, cut friend, a fling, or fuck buddies) is a term used to describe the physical and emotional relationship between two unmarried people who have a sexual relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting a more formal relationship as a goal.
A casual relationship may be part time, or for a limited time, and may be monogamous or otherwise, and the term encompasses strong enduring friendships between people who enjoy each others closeness but do not seek marriage for some reason, through to relationships purely entered into for sexual purposes. In each case, the relationship's dominance in the lives of those involved, is being voluntarily limited, and there is usually a sense that the relationship is intended to endure only so long as circumstances make possible and both parties wish it to.
Motives for casual relationships vary, and should be distinguished from casual sex in which no relationship is intended. Many casual relationships also include mutual support, affection and enjoyment, which underpin other forms of loving relationship. Some casual relationships eventually do become long-term relationships in the course of time; equally, others were never intended to."
The concept as such was not completely unkown to me, but isn't it interesting that we as a society already have a term for something like that? - Just made me think and opened up some questions. - Will that be the relationship form of the future? Where would this then lead to?
posted by Caro @ 7:32 PM
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I used to call this type of relationship a "More-nightstand"
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I wouldn't say it's the relationship form of the future, but it's already there right now. People want to have their "freedom" but enjoy the nice sides of relationship as well!
Gudrun, Mor-nightstand sound good..;-)
Feel like adding my fifty cents:-) I think more nuances need to be added, and yes, I think all of these forms exist already: There is what you refer to as the "more-nightstand" which I'd say is only about casual intercourse and is purely physical. Then, there are probably some more steps before reaching the "friends with benefit" situation: More than just physical, but stil no clear intention of commitment Maybe the movie "My best friend's wedding" would give a good example of this ;-) And then, well, I guess would come the so-called "open relationship", which is a true relationship I think (and mostly there's commitment, at least for a while), but without physical exclusivity. Hm, and then are even married couples where there obviously is commitment, but they still allow physical non-exclusivity. Where this all leads us to? A whole lotta confusion I'd say :-s
Love the explanation. The only place i heard this term before is in the song "Head over feet" by Alanis Morrisette.
The problem i have often thought/heard of is that with such a wide 'spectrum' of expectations in this field, it is very unlikey that both parties have the same commitment level. This of course can lead to feelings of jealousy, resentment, claustrophobia, betrayal, etc
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